I was scrolling through Instagram aimlessly today and one of my favorite blogs, HelloGiggles, posted a quote: “Female friendships that work are relationships in which women help each other belong to themselves”-Louise Bernikow. This quote could not have crossed my path at a better time. Lately, I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting on life and just earlier today I was thinking about my wonderful girlfriends. Friendship is sacred and beautiful, but I have to say, the best kept secret is that of sisterhood. Sometimes I feel like I’m part of a secret club that you can only be a part of if you have the password. I hope that everyone can have a group of women like mine, but I know that is unfortunately not the case. For those women who haven’t found their sisterhood, I pray that you will. It will come when you least expect it to. Maybe you will go through a bad breakup and the woman in front of you at Starbucks buys you a coffee. Maybe you get rejected from your dream school, only to end up at another school where your roommate becomes your number one confidant. Or maybe you’re 80 years old and you and your neighbor have both lost your life partners. You lean on each other for support and create a bond that only you two understand. I have been beyond blessed with the women that I have in my life. Growing up, I only had friends that were girls; ladies that I am still best friends with to this very day.
Louise Bernikow’s quote reminded me just how much I appreciate the women I surround myself with, whom I consider the pillars of my life. I am who I am today because of these women. They have helped me find myself, never once judging me on the decisions, albeit mistakes, I have made. Instead, these friends were there to help me pick up the pieces and support the leaps of faith I took.
As we approach summer, I have realized throughout the years that this is typically the season of major life changes. I don’t know why, but it just seems to fall that way. And for my beautiful friends, it is no different. In honor of celebrating sisterhood, not only will I be watching the Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants movies and writing letters to all of my girlfriends, here are the AMAZING things that my friends are up to. You all may a bit jealous by the time you are done reading this, but I promise you, you are surrounded by beautiful, intelligent women that do great things everyday.
Dearest Katie traveling all over China. You took us all by surprise and I can’t believe we have been friends for 18 years! You are by far the coolest panda on earth and I’m glad it’s your turn to be the world traveler. Our friendship is by far one of the rocks in my life. Our 3 hour skype sessions and phone calls have helped me through some of the darkest times. I envy your confidence in everything you do. Keep rocking at life!
Hannah 1 and Hannah 2 🙂 You are two of the smartest people I know! Both of you graduated with 2 DEGREES this spring! Biology & Public Health, Chemistry & Mechanical Engineering. Hannah 1: Your compassion never ceases to amaze me. You have such a big heart for helping people and bravery that I envy. From Denmark, to Tanzania, to the Galapagos, never stop traveling and saving people all around the world.
Hannah 2: I don’t know if I will ever be able to come close to the amount of strength you have. While I know this has been one of the hardest years for you, I am amazed by your perseverance.
Mary berry, I love that our friendship is one of the ages. No matter how much time goes by where we don’t see each other, it’s like no time has passed. You are kicking some major Crate & Barrel ass. While I know it’s not what you imagined, I envy your ability to take life as it comes and not always have a plan. I wish I had an ounce of that adventure. Also, whether intentionally or not, I know I can count on you for a matching outfit shopping adventure.
My little intellectual scholar Kirsten. You’re right where I had imagined you would be, buried in books. I love watching you come out of your comfort zone and experience the deep southern world of Texas. While at times it may seem like we have drifted apart, I know that no matter what happens, we will have each other.
Pal Parrin, you are a rockstar who just finished a HALF MARATHON! When you put your mind to something, you conquer it. I am so beyond proud of you. You were one of the unexpected friends that came into my life, but it was the most welcome surprise. Our friendship helped me so much during my rut of a year. You’re the true definition of a friend.
Sarah! If you asked me 5 years ago if we’d be as close of friends as we are today, I would have laughed. I know we had a rocky start in high school but you have been my saving grace this year. I have appreciated your friendship probably more than you know and I am so proud of you for getting into GRAD SCHOOL! You are going to take Arizona by storm and I can’t wait to come visit. I promise I will bring Oreos 🙂
Anna-from the day I met you at Kada, I knew we’d be friends for a long, long time. While we don’t talk all the time, I look forward to your visits every time we’re in Milwaukee. Your passion for theater and your determination to prove everyone wrong is admirable. When you are taking Broadway by storm, I hope you’ll remember me…but not as the friend who got drunk at your house, passed out on the couch, and only woke up a few times to watch E.T….that couldn’t have been me…
I could go on for pages and pages, and there are many more women that need to be appreciated, but I will leave you with this. Never take your friends for granted. Partners come and go, drunk friends are not real despite the amount of selfies you take the night before, and ones that judge you were never friends to begin with. True friendship takes work, commitment; laughs and tears; arguments and sadness. We may all live in different parts of the world now, but our connection and love couldn’t be stronger. As Gloria Steinem once said: “Women understand. We may share experiences, make jokes, paint pictures, and describe humiliations that mean nothing to men, but women understand. The odd thing about these deep and personal connections of women is that they often ignore barriers of age, economics, worldly experience, race, culture — all the barriers that, in male or mixed society, had seemed so difficult to cross.” —New York Magazine, December 1971